Starting a new job is already stressful enough, with new names to remember, systems to learn, and the constant panic of not wanting to screw anything up. So, the last thing a new employee needs is a passive-aggressive comment or thoughtless remark that makes them feel like an outsider. Sometimes, it’s unintentional, but to someone trying to find their footing, these 10 little phrases can be red flags.
“We’ve Always Done It This Way.”
Harvard Business Review reports that only 7% of U.S. workers strongly agree their company’s communication is accurate, timely, and open. Many organizations continue clinging to the familiar line, “We’ve always done it this way.” The habit creates a costly cycle where tradition dominates and efficiency steadily erodes.
“You’ll Figure It Out.”
Let’s retire this “figure it out” mentality. Every unsupported employee becomes a costly gamble with higher turnover risk and falling morale. In contrast, businesses that invest in onboarding and guidance gain stronger retention, with teams that feel genuinely valued and equipped to succeed.
“You’re Not Ready Yet.”
This phrase might sound like constructive feedback, but without context or encouragement, it can feel like a door slammed shut. It implies doubt, stalls ambition, and makes new employees question their worth. A better approach? Pair honest assessments with clear paths forward—mentorship, training, and trust. That’s how readiness is built.
“We Expect You To Hit The Ground Running.”
Leaders may think demanding immediate results proves standards are high. The reality is, it undermines trust and drives burnout. Supporting gradual growth creates the opposite effect: employees gain confidence. So, they build skills more effectively and become stronger contributors to the organization’s future.
“Don’t Ask Too Many Questions.”
Picture two workplaces: one where questions draw raised eyebrows and subtle discouragement, leaving employees reluctant to ask for help. The other embraces curiosity and encourages teams to learn quickly and grow together. This difference fuels development and keeps employees engaged and committed longer.
“That’s Not Your Concern.”
Sure, maybe they’re not responsible for that particular project or decision—but brushing them off with this phrase sends a much colder message. It tells them their input doesn’t matter, and their interest is also not welcome. A little context makes them feel like part of the team, not just a task-doer.
“Everyone Struggles, You Will Too.”
Apparently, nothing builds great teams like watching new hires flail until they either sink or swim. Except it doesn’t—it erodes confidence and silences questions. Supportive onboarding is the real deal. It speeds up adaptation and creates cultures where people actually want to stay.
“You’re Lucky To Be Here.”
The phrase “you’re lucky to be here” sounds harsh and gives rise to toxic environments where employees feel expendable and disengage. Recognition, however, has the reverse effect. It fuels motivation and encourages loyalty, which makes appreciation one of the clearest drivers of organizational strength.
“Don’t Bother The Manager.”
Leaders who make themselves available create environments where questions are welcomed and challenges tackled confidently. When managers signal that approaching them is unwelcome, the opposite unfolds. Small problems grow, trust weakens, and employees begin second-guessing decisions.
“Stay Out Of The Way.”
What better way to waste fresh talent than by telling them to disappear? A throwaway “stay out of the way” shatters confidence and sends collaboration off the rails. The result isn’t quieter offices; it’s disengagement and declining performance across the board.
